Relationship Matters

The Two Popes – 2019


I’m not Roman Catholic but the selection of the new pope commands a global audience and that most definitely includes me. With the surprise resignation of Pope Benedict XVI in February 2013, the world was held hostage for two days and four black smoke disappointments until Wednesday, March 13, 2013, driving to a morning interfaith clergy meeting, it was announced that white smoke was visible over the Vatican. U-turn. I sped home, rushed inside to click the tv on, making it just in time to see Pope Francis emerge on the balcony of St. Peter’s Basilica and ask the thousands of pilgrims gathered in St. Peter’s Square to pray for his predecessor, “the bishop emeritus of Rome” Pope Benedict XVI. Jorge Mario Bergoglio was elected on the fifth ballot replacing Pope Benedict XVI who a month earlier announced his resignation, citing a “lack of strength of mind and body” due to his advanced age of 85, the first pope to resign on his own initiative since Celestine V in 1294. Once every 725 years equals rare. Which makes Netflix’s Two Popes a rare opportunity to create a “what if” scenario involving the two most powerful religious men in the world. 

The film starts in 2005 when the death of Pope John-Paul II brought together a papal enclave which offered Cardinal Bergoglio (Jonathan Pryce) and Cardinal Joseph Ratzinger (Anthony Hopkins) a few passing opportunities to talk. Ratzinger, a humorless, Plato paraphrasing German cardinal openly campaigns for the papacy, wins on the fourth ballot and goes on to reestablish conservative priorities and reverse fledgling reform efforts within the Roman Catholic universe—diametrically opposed to humble, poverty-seeking Argentinian Bergoglio’s progressive beliefs. In 2012 the film reconvenes with Cardinal Bergoglio summoned to the Vatican ostensibly for Pope Benedict to consider Bergoglio’s desire to retire, but in reality it was for the pope to disclose his intent to resign.

The conversations between the two clerics in 2005, but mostly in 2012, are filmed with a handheld camera effect—jostling, refocusing, wiggles, close-ups, zoom-outs— to edge us bystanders into the thick of the dialogue. We are front and center to Benedict and Bergoglio’s intimate chats that are delightful, funny, playful, deeply touching, sometimes antagonistic and even angry. Bergoglio and Benedict converse on a wide range of topics from pizza to the papacy, classical music to tango, soccer to sexual predators. They debate and spar over the future of organized religion. Do doctrinal absolutes trump the epidemic of empty churches? Is sustaining an acute clergy shortage preferable to the ordination of women or married men? Is contraception the theological hill the Church will die on? Do you maintain the Church by destroying it? Do you destroy the Church by changing it? The serve and volley parley humanize both men who talk long enough to cultivate friendship, develop empathy and discover common ground despite dramatic doctrinal and political differences. Pryce and Hopkins invest every ounce of their extensive acting repertoire into two terrific performances. Jonathan Pryce is simply amazing. At Midnight Mass this Christmas Eve, when Pope Francis opened the liturgy, my immediate reaction was, “Hey, where’s the real pope?” 

I know the sharing and give and take between Bergoglio and Benedict, Pryce and Hopkins was fiction, cinematic imagination, but art is the medium to explore and dream, to try on possibilities and test out alternatives. What if discourse that mirrored the two popes was our norm? Respect, appreciation, empathy. We could disagree without disliking. We could contest without confrontation. The men express how the “hardest thing is to listen to God’s voice.” On the contrary, I’d say the hardest thing is to listen to each other’s voice. My New Decade goal is to do better. Yours? I’m listening.

Rough Cut

Uncut Gems – 2019 – R

Gambling on sports is nothing I understand. Over, under, even, lines, parlay. Uncut Jewels offers no mercy to those unschooled in betting. Actually Uncut Jewels offers no mercy to those schooled (in pretty much anything). Period. The film’s dialogue was reduced to strings of profanity, expletives and f-bomb obscenities. 95% of the film’s dialogue can be boiled down to some variation of you mother F@#$&*%$  piece of @#$& sucking @#$&! The other 5% were exchanges between a team of gastroenterologists conducting a colonoscopy. Sigmoid colon, polyps, diverticula. Riveting.

The film’s 135 minutes were continual, nonstop, unrelenting turbulence, like being thrashed about by storm whipped waves—slammed,tossed, smashed—one gulp and gasp short of drowning. Agitating. Draining. Exhausting. And so much yelling. Men, women, children, the audition criteria for this movie was measured in decibels. I scream you scream. We all scream and yell and curse and shout and shriek at everyone around. And that’s us the audience! Crushed into frenetic, raving oblivion by an ingratiating, asinine tale of addiction and adrenaline, characters incessantly clamoring and talking over each other, we suffered a collective audience anxiety attack. Look that up in the DSM-5 and file an insurance claim.

The hoard of lowlife characters are dislikable, distasteful dimwits. The leading dunderhead, New York Diamond District jeweler Howard Ratner (Adam Sadler) is an unscrupulous, lying scumbag, whose con artist life is a treacherous pyramid scheme of stupidity, sellouts and screwups. He owes debts upon bets. He pawns things borrowed and sells things loaned. There is not a single endearing quality enough to salvage his soul when the inevitable day of doom descends. His wife Dinah (Idina Menzel) dishes it out the best, “I think you are the most annoying person on the planet.” Agreed. Too bad the writers couldn’t figure out a slant where Grammy, Oscar and Tony feted Menzel could have belted out a song or two. She might have redeemed this ill-conceived, crude, moronic  @#$&*+%  movie. Take the money and run. No diamonds in the rough to be had, just a bad lot.

Ladies In Motion

Little Women – 2019 – PG

My mom wasn’t much of a reader but her favorite book was Louisa May Alcott’s Little Women. I grew up a voracious reader and never read it. Go figure. Over the 150 years since it’s 1868/9 publication, Little Women has been made into multiple movies, stage plays, television series and even an opera. How can this uber familiar story possibly be told again?  We all know the plot, the characters and the raison d’être. Little Women was this year’s choice for our family’s going-to-a-movie-every-Christmas-Day tradition. Entertain me. Educate me. Encourage me. Please. 

And it did! The scenery gorgeous, characters delightful, story irresistible. I can understand why Little Women offered a now tame, but in the day a groundbreaking invitation for young ladies to envision and expand their life possibilities. At the same time, a woman’s traditional, domestic lifestyle, challenged by feisty, brilliant Jo was preserved by beautiful, bright Meg. The revolutionary notion introduced by Alcott is choice. 

The film follows the March family –conventional Meg (Emma Watson), writer Jo (Saoirse Ronan), pianist Beth (Eliza Scanlen), artist Amy (Florence Pugh) and doting mother Marmee (Laura Dern) as they come to maturity during and after the Civil War. Rounding out the central figures are lad Laurie (Timothee Chalamet) a wealthy, orphaned neighbor who becomes a de facto family member and prosperous, spinster Aunt March (Meryl Streep), the self-appointed guardian of social pedigree, looking for at least one niece who will marry well, salvage the family name and keep the “Family March” afloat.

The flashback, nonlinear way the story is told caused me some confusion but I finally came up with my own cues to alert me to time shifts and guide my tracking. It’s no fun to be left behind, stuck in the past when the action jumps to the future. Hey, where’d everybody go! The film is full of romance, unrequited and realized, tragedy and comedy, poignant moments and outrageous indiscretions. Little Women was the perfect Christmas Day movie. For the record, the theater was sold out and sitting next to me was an elderly Jewish woman with whom I enjoyed a festive chat waiting for the movie to start. As the lights went down I wished her a Happy Holiday and she wished me a Merry Christmas. And it truly was.

A Fox in the Henhouse

Bombshell – 2019 – R

Bombshell is based on true events that surfaced in 2016 when news anchor Gretchen Carlson rocked the industry by filing a lawsuit alleging sexual harassment against Roger Ailes, CEO and chairman of Fox News. What followed were accusations by Fox news anchor Megyn Kelly—along with more than 20 other women—accusing Ailes of sexual misconduct. Kelly did not file a lawsuit but, in her 2016 memoir Settle for More, she described the abuse inflicted by Ailes.

It took a while sorting out all of Bombshell’s on-air and wannabe on-air blonds, but I was finally able to focus on who was being exploited, victimized and harassed by sleazy, lecherous Roger Ailes (John Lithgow). The #MeToo trinity Megyn Kelly (Charlize Theron), Gretchen Carlson (Nicole Kidman) and a purely fictionalized character, Kayla Popsisi (Margot Robbie) take on the Fox empire (Megyn and Kayla reluctantly) revealing a sordid quid pro quo dirty-old-man climate where sexual favors were demanded as a condition of advancement or to prevent demotion. 

Reflecting a news show medium, the film uses a narrator approach that effectively engages the movie audience as studio insiders. The actors are at their pinnacle of performance, playing their parts so convincingly that you are warned in the opening credits that the people depicted are indeed actors. While the primary reveal is the harem environment in which Fox male execs revel, the more subtly staged and captivating storylines are the women on women interactions, from fearful whispering, suspicion, and furtive glances to mounting an audacious “Team Roger” campaign complete with provocative t-shirts, led by Kimberly Guilfoyle (Bree Condon), longtime Fox co-host of “The Five.”

What, pray tell, would it take to ignite the loyalty of women and unite us in a sisterhood of solidarity? The tyranny of fear and sexual exploitation at Fox News, the “show me more leg” or “stand up and give me a twirl” network, didn’t exactly generate an “off with skirts, on with pants” protest but several executives did get walked out, the exit door swinging wide for talk show pundit Bill O’Reilly and co-president of Fox News Bill Shine. Shine went on to serve as President Trump’s White House Deputy Chief of Staff for Communications. Gretchen Carlson settled out-of-court for $20 million while Roger Ailes left with a $40 million buyout. Kimberly Guilfoyle left Fox in 2018 romantically teaming up with Donald Trump Jr. becoming one of “Team Trump” most forceful supporters. 

Fake news? I wish. But, no. The bitter norm. My Bombshell audience was 100% female and with every revelation of malfeasance, incivility and impropriety a cacophony of groans momentarily drowned the audio. Momentarily. Let’s hope #MeToo digs in for the long haul. One litmus test will be award season. Charlize Theron and Margot Robbie each received Golden Globe nominations but doesn’t mean much given Best Actress and Supporting Actress are obviously a gender given. Keep an eye on the Academy. And if you’re going to an Oscar party on February 9, wipe off your makeup and pull on your jeans. #DareYou.

The End of an Epic

Star Wars: The Rise of Skywalker – 2019 – PG13

All good things must come to an end. It’s been 42 years since Han, Leia and Luke, ChewbaccaC-3PO and R2-D2 launched a cultural phenomenon that to this day sees closet shelves and dresser drawers across America stuffed with lightsabers, stormtroopers and droids. Collectibles! Some day, we all hope, they will be worth a fortune and augment our retirement. My son, born in 1977, grew up paralleling the Star Wars universe. Remember Boba Fett?  The most feared bounty hunter in the galaxy once went missing in our household. To restore order to our universe we immediately went shopping. Being the pre-Amazon Prime era, it required firing the car up and ransacking Wards, Sears, Mervyn’s and Toys “R” Us until we finally lucked out at a K-Mart 20 miles away! The force was with us.

Star Wars ultimate finale, The Rise of Skywalker, concludes the epic triple trilogy that started a long time ago in a galaxy far, far away. Jedi Rey and First Order Commander Kylo Ren (Daisy Ridley, Adam Driver) Resistance fighter pilot Poe and Stormtrooper drop-out Finn (Oscar Isaac, John Boyega) wage a winner-take-all intergalactic scavenger hunt, the prize, a free universe. Rey and Ren dominate the film, blasting and battling each other (to the point of tedium) across the galaxy. Ren was not as maniacal as in the Force Awakens. I spotted a soft spot early on but had to wait until the finale of the finale to see if my hunch would bear fruit, last man standing, Ben or Ren? Redemption or revenge? No spoiler here but you won’t be disappointed. Rey matches Ren’s zealotry, lightsabership and scowls from dunes to oceans, islands to planets. Their ocean battle alone incredible. Death Stars rise and fall but worth the wait is when the most famous X-Wing in Star Wars lore makes a majestic reappearance. Just wow! Bringing a roar from my theater crowd is the scene following Poe’s reassurance, “We’ve got friends out there. They’ll come if they know there’s hope.” Look up! The Resistance meets the Empire, once and for all. For me, the absolute best moment of the movie. 

There are lots of loose ends left for Star Wars aficionados to debate for years. The Rise of Skywalker couldn’t possibly get it all figured out or the movie would play more as exhausting eulogy than culminating trilogy. To love this four decade saga is to live comfortably with ambiguity. A blockbuster’s impact on pop culture is measured by the millions of water cooler arguments, opinions and observations that fill social media and social gatherings for common consideration and consumption. That’s the fun of it. Let’s test it out. I wasn’t thrilled with the ending, but then I’m a biology matters kind of person. Luke (Skywalker himself) disagrees, “Some things are stronger than blood.” What do you think? Let it rip. Above all else, yesterday, tomorrow and four decades hence, let’s lay claim to what’s most important, “The Force brought us together.” Thanks for that reminder Finn. And may the force be with you all!

Trading Places

Jumanji: The Next Level – 2019 – PG13

Let’s get right to it. The best parts of this movie are the marauding,snarling baboons and stampeding attack ostriches. The scenery, from desert to mountains, is gorgeous. I came right home and starting researching affordable forest homes. Danny DeVito (Eddie) and Danny Glover (Milo) are the next best thing since Walter Matthau and Jack Lemmon and that’s saying something since it’s been 51 years since the Odd Couple. The whole trading around avatars was disconcerting. DeVito’s voice coming through a young woman’s body was creepy. Glover as a black horse with retractable wings and speaking horse language was far-fetched even for a fantasy. At least it was a cut above Mr. Ed because Mouse (Kevin Hart), bilingual in English/Equine, capably translated. A horse is a horse of course of course. Not always. It might be Danny Glover.

It would have helped if I’d queued up and reviewed the second film, Jumanji: Welcome to the Jungle (2017) so I could have oriented myself faster to the video game parallel universe. I felt exactly like clueless geezers Milo and Eddie trying to make sense of being sucked into a broken game console and dropped as avatars into Jumanji, “Huh?” Well, since I’m spouting off about 1968’s Odd Couple and 1961’s Mr. Ed, I guess I am a geezer. “Huh?” Reality check. Sigh. The film mixes and matches genders, races, and ages. Instant Fountain of Youth for some and surprise, surprise, overnight Golden Years for others. All together now, trade! I always dreamed of being a flying horse.

If you’re a Jumanji fan, definitely see it. If you’re not versed in supernatural board games, but still want a dose of fantasy you might want to see Frozen 2 instead. Or, maybe just stay home and play a video game.

Bleak Christmas

Black Christmas – 2019 – PG13

The good thing about going to a movie in the waning weeks of December is you can declare, “I just saw the best/worst film of the year.” So how much better to go towards the end of the decade when you can justifiably proclaim, “I just saw the worst movie of the decade!” Indeed. Black Christmas, 92 minutes of horror released 12/13, Friday the 13th.

It’s winter break eve at Hawthorne College. Think East Coast, Ivy League. Gothic, gargoyles, stones and spires. The traditional holiday follies are underway! A chorus line of MKE sorority sisters take the stage and sing a parody set to “Up on the Housetop” that’s directed at former president and (respected) rapist of the AKO fraternity who is smirking from the back of the packed room. This #MeToo performance sends AKO—aka ghoulish underworld black magic fratboys into a murderous revenge rage fueled by a supernatural, sticky tar gunk that seeps out of the bust of college founder, Calvin Hawthorne, a known racist, sexist and misogynist. Hunker down, the hunt is on! Apparently Ivy League colleges now teach archery along with the classics because the depraved, rampaging fratbrats are armed with none other than bows and arrows to kill their feminist prey. Trinkets that identify each targeted woman are stolen by a treasonous, back-stabbing (literally) sorority sister and used to track down the #MeToo crew. Missing a hair clip? Watch out! An arrow is whizzing your way. Robin Hood would be repulsed. There are a few weapon substitutes such as extra-pointy icicles snapped off snowy eaves and attic-stashed Christmas lights, those vintage, extra large red and green bulbous strings—that never work—so the better to choke you with, my dear! The Brothers Grimm would be proud. If you’re curious about the PG-13 rating, unusual for a slasher/horror movie, the kills are blood-free. The ladies get bonked or impaled or gashed Disney-style, resulting in artsy, palatable gore, sans splatter. The bad boys don’t even have blood, just busty black goo ooze, “This can’t be real,” says one brassy coed examining a dead diablo boy. How perceptive. The ghost of bad Calvin Hawthorne, condensed into coal dust from landing one too many years on Santa’s naughty list, mucks amok.

Eventually the story shifts from women-as-victims to women-as-attackers. But not before they turn on each other, taking a respite from arrows and axes and knives to argue and bicker. Picture this, you and your BFF, nearly slasher fodder, escape by  commandeering a car and are racing for your lives down a dark, isolated wintery road. But mean looks are exchanged, harsh words levied and feelings are hurt, so naturally it makes perfect sense to stop and refuse to ride any farther together. Separate. Stomp off. Now one of you must walk for your life. Oh, please. Da-dum-dum-dum, dum, dumb. Her foolish move drags Little Drummer Boy into the fray. Don’t worry. The disgruntled walker survives, appearing in the next scene slogging menacingly towards the AKO voodoo brothers with a snow shovel slung over her shoulder, the weapon du jour. Visualize a shovel-toting Annie Oakley in a Santa cap. Hard to imagine….unless you’ve seen Black Christmas. The film ends with the sisterhood unified in fiery defiance. Let the slings and arrows fly. I won’t spoil it by saying anything more. Well, maybe just one more thing. Skip it. 

Disney Defrost

Frozen 2 – 2019 – PG

First let me say that if I am ever given the chance to come back in a future life I want to be Idina Menzel— as long as John Travolta never introduces me. If you are blanking on what I’m talking about, cue up Travolta at the 2014 Academy Awards introducing Menzel’s performance of Frozen’s Let It Go (which took home the Oscar for Best Song). Her voice is divine, a Heavenly treat, ear candy….add your superlatives. I did enjoy a few songs from Frozen 2 but most left me wishing I’d subscribed to the new Disney Plus service on my Apple TV so I could stream Frozen the original and just keep replaying Let It Go. Tip: be sure and stay through the credits so you can hear Kacey Musgraves sing All is Found. It’s already #1 on my iPhone Frozen 2 song list. Plus there is a funny Olaf and friends bonus clip at the very, very end, yes, after the “Caffeinated Team” listing. What is that? Starbucks runners? 

The musical show stopper was a mother/daughter duet, Show Yourself, featuring Idina Menzel (Elsa) and Evan Rachel Wood (Queen Iduna) at a carpe diem turning point for Elsa. Tracking a mysterious lilting voice, Elsa travels beyond the kingdom of Arendelle in order to discover the source of her magical powers and to learn the truth about her family’s past. Show Yourself musically accompanies Elsa on her dangerous journey, peaking as she plunges into the raging Dark Sea. There she encounters and tames the Nøkk, a water spirit that shapeshifts into a magnificent white stallion and brings her safely to Ahtohallan. Show Yourself is #2 on my song list. That’s it. A short hummable set. Perfect.

Ultimately Elsa, Anna, Sven, Olaf and Kristoff together will be called upon to set things right as it relates to the neighboring tribe of Northuldra and, in doing so, save Arendelle. Elsa’s quest for self-discovery, Anna’s sisterly protection of Elsa, Kristoff’s romantic pursuit of Anna and the unfortunate melt-down of Olaf all factor into a fairly complicated Frozen mythology of kings, queens and kingdoms; enchanted forests, trolls and spirits; and, personification of elements—Fire, Air, Water, and Earth. There are so many new characters and creatures introduced in this sequel that if (when) there is a Frozen 3, CliffsNotes will be sold as a popular concession item right beside popcorn and Skittles. 

The Frozen 2 animation and cinematography was exquisite and dazzling at times—the Earth Giants, the Nøkk, and Elsa’s frozen magical moves are prime examples. At other times, the technology was not so splendid. Olaf reminds me of a craft kit of cotton balls and toothpicks designed to be an easily manufactured stuffed animal. Bruni, a sweet, tiny salamander is super cute but so simple it would go well as a black line master in a Frozen 2 toddler’s coloring book. The ice sculpture images are reminiscent of a Macy’s Christmas Window themed around Department 56 Snowbabies. The last fifteen minutes of the film salvaged a tedious first half snooze fest. IMHO Disney can do better. 

Tragic Immortality

Queen & Slim – 2019 – R


Proceeding with caution do I offer observations on this Black film that writer Lena Waithe calls “protest art,” the film’s title representing Black people in America, not the names of the two lead characters. We don’t even hear their “real” names, Ernest and Angela, until a tv news broadcast at the end of the movie. Two young African-Americans, Jesus-fearing Ernest (Daniel Kaluuya – Get Out, Black Panther) and criminal defense attorney Angela (Jodie Turner-Smith – first lead role in a feature film) meet in a modest diner for a computer match date. They don’t really hit it off but with dramatic irony will wind up spending the rest of their lives together. Leaving the cafe they are pulled over by a White cop for a minor infraction. We learn later that this officer has a publicly known history of violence towards Blacks. The seemingly innocent traffic stop predictably ends deadly, Angela grazed in the leg, shot by the officer and then Ernest, in an act of self defense and a genre turnaround, kills the officer. The worst blind date in history turns into an Ohio to Macon to New Orleans to Miami road trip, the young couple ducking and dodging a nationally televised cop killer man hunt. Their faces are splashed all over the media elevating them to hero status in Black communities. Their journey to safety, an impromptu plan to get to Cuba, evolves into a contemporary Underground Railroad where Blacks and a smattering of Whites informally pull together to provide them safe passage. There are hints of Romeo and Juliette, Bonnie and Clyde, Thelma and Louise and Harriett in the film’s 132 minute runtime so do invest in a quick review of this classic/instant classic filmography before you go. There is also an excellent article in Oprah Magazine worth reading, https://www.oprahmag.com/entertainment/tv-movies/a29953547/who-is-jodie-turner-smith/

 The young couple’s odyssey across the countryside, at first filled with hostility and blame towards each other, grows into a budding romance culminating in a steamy sex scene in the front seat of their car. Their lengthy lovemaking is intersected with scenes of a violent local protest—about their plight—where a Black Officer in riot gear is shot point blank in the head by a Black teen who earlier met and instantly idolized the couple as the teen’s reluctant car mechanic father repaired the couple’s blown radiator. A fallen Black officer killed at the hands of an enraged Black youth represents, to me, how Black Lives Matter injustices infiltrate and corrupt the actions of all, spreading hatred and anger across and within races.

Queen and Slim is a tough movie to watch, especially as a White person whose race is the target of this Black J’Accuse. Guaranteed, the film is disturbing and will cause discomfort, but art often speaks to the heart where other mediums fail. Having it’s world premiere at the American Film Institute’s annual celebration of artistic excellence, a showcase for the best festival films of the year, Queen & Slim is a daring story full of cultural symbolism, metaphor, allusion and allegory.  There is the exciting physical escape and there is a compelling parallel psyche escape filled with wonderful scenes of the couple shedding invisible societal chains, daring to live their lives without apology or fear, as simple as dancing in a homegrown Black nightclub, jumping a fence and riding an elegant white horse, or hanging out the window of their moving car, carefree faces turned joyfully into the wind. Their final declaration of freedom will break you. For these reasons alone, I’d encourage you to see this film, going in with an open mind and hopefully coming out with an open heart. 

Divorce Story

Marriage Story – 2019 – R

Until the Golden Globe nominations were announced I hadn’t even heard of Marriage Story. But, there it was: Best Actor Drama, Best Actress Drama, Best Supporting Actress, Best Drama, Best Screenplay and Best Original Score. Good grief! I haven’t exactly been hiding under a rock when it comes to movies! Fully chagrined I clicked on Netflix and settled in, expecting to be overwhelmingly impressed. I wasn’t but that’s not an indictment by any means. The film was really good just not over the top Bravo! The storyline is actually quite common, one many of us have lived: marriage adrift, divorce, child custody, division of property….“let’s keep this fair and civil, do what’s best for the kids.” If we’re lucky, amicable works. If not, our lives grind to a brutal, angry halt while attorneys screw everything up and money rolls downhill so their kids can relax about college tuition while our kids start applying for financial aid. Watching Marriage Story is like sitting through 136 minutes of bad lawyer jokes springing to life. The horror.

Charlie (Adam Driver), a director of cutting-edge, avant-garde theater, positioned to take his latest work to Broadway, is married to Nicole (Scarlett Johansson), an actress fading from NYC stage renown but still popular in Hollywood. The couple have grown apart, recognizing, despite deeply caring for each other, the point of departure has arrived. Divorce is discussed. Their young son Henry (Azhy Robertson) is the beloved prize and both parents start out determined his interests be top priority. Then a wrinkle emerges. Nicole accepts a career revival offer to film a pilot in Los Angeles. She takes Henry with her to California, moving in with her Charlie-adoring mom (Julie Hagerty). On one of Charlie’s frequent coast-to-coast trips to spend time with his family, Nicole bullies her reluctant Charlie-adoring sister Cassie (Merritt Wever) to serve him with divorce papers, smuggled under a pecan pie, then hires Nora Fanshaw (Larua Dern) as her attorney, a bulldog lawyer who  approaches divorce in a “there will be blood” crusade. Nora relishes in threatening Charlie with loss of all earthly possessions and any hint of custody. Charlie is forced to retaliate. Enter divorce Death Star Jay Marotta (Ray Liotta). At this point we strap in for a gut-wrenching saga of two legal vipers squaring off to pound the other side to pulp, not caring a whit that “sides” are flesh and blood people, parents at a starting line of good intentions. Charlie and Nicole recoil, shatterIng under scathing legal posturing and purposeful courtroom annihilation. Even Henry is a won/lost tally at times, the wretched center flag of a parental tug-of-war, Charlie pulling one arm, Nicole the other. Everyone is expendable as collateral damage, Charlie literally bleeding out on his rented California apartment floor in one grueling black humor kitchen scene. Lord, have mercy.

What materializes below the waves of the legal hurricane are two decent people, Charlie and Nicole, trying—mostly futilely—but trying nevertheless to resist succumbing to emotional cruelty. Predictably, tirades of fury and fear simmer, seethe and eventually explode. Human combustion. As the vitriol flies, you regret on their behalf what they’re unleashing— hateful, damning words that can never be taken back, that will echo forever no matter how hard they may wish differently. We’ve all been there. The film taps our jagged relational regrets, remorse and repentance, making “I’m sorry,” a communal mantra of misery. You want to jump up and shout at the screen, “Stop! Don’t say it! Just stopplease.”

Adam Driver is not a favorite of mine, he’s so Keanu Reeves with a distinctive monotone delivery, but he did stretch his dramatic persona for this role, perhaps his best performance to date. Petty question #1: how did 6’2” Driver gets cast with 5’3” Scarlett Johansson? He towered over her. Maybe it was to serve as a visual metaphor for their professional director/actress relationship. Truthfully, Johansson failed to win me over, I never warmed up to Nicole. I was rooting for Charlie, put off by Nicole and annoyed by Henry. Petty question #2: isn’t Henry way too big for a car seat? Cassie, Nicole’s witty sister, was my favorite of all the characters. For the record I am a total Merritt Wever groupie, my enthusiasm for her in Nurse Jackie morphed to sheer hero worship in Netflix’s Godless, the last scene I can watch over and over and over until I’m the last person awake in the household. 

There were enough funny exchanges in this film, comedy infusion, that thankfully lightened the heavy laden angst. While the attorneys square off, family members rise and fall in their humanness. It’s like taking a selfie of our worst selves against a background of laughter, kindness, and thoughtfulness. If the goal is to showcase the competing dualism of the human spirit then Marriage Story charges ahead of the 2019 drama pack. It didn’t win my vote but maybe because it hit too close to home, taking me on a walk down memory lane of my own awful, demolition derby divorce, fomented by two condescending attorneys who pitted us against each other in a hostile custody battle over our two young sons. 35 years later I still hate the shameful things I said and did. Marriage Story’s “Join the crowd” is small comfort. I’ll leave it at that. The 77th Golden Globe Awards will be held aired live January 5, 2020 by NBC, 8 EST/5 PST.